According to marriage counsellors It can be confusing to try to figure out what a partner wants. And men, in particular, are having a harder time than ever because of changing expectations on the part of many females. In the past, it was enough for a husband to be a good provider, to have stable employment, and to bring home an adequate paycheck. If he didn’t ordinarily drink too much, gamble his paycheck away, mistreat his wife, or blatantly run around, then he was considered a “good husband.”

But now, that’s not enough anymore for many females. Enter the age of the “soulmate”—a word that signifies a deep bond and heart connection, someone who’s on the same “wave length” as his or her partner. Soulmates are compatible and bring out the best in each other. The relationship has satisfying intimacy and includes friendship and companionship as well as love.

The connection between soulmates is sustained by emotional intimacy and the delight the partners share at having found each other. They share feelings easily and keep each other informed as to what they’re feeling, what concerns they’re wrestling with, what they’re worried about, and what their hopes and dreams are. Soulmates often say they feel a spiritual as well as an emotional connection to their partner.