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Do you ever feel that time is passing you by?

January 30th 2008 09:25

The weeks seem to rush by just so quickly. I guess this is a short week because of the Australia Day weekend, which Jim and I enjoyed very much. We don't see each other much during the week as I have Ballet class two nights and Jim goes running and works out at the Gym.

I wonder how that will change as our relationship deepens. It seems nowadays that many people run their lives as singles rather than as a couple.

I know we do for at least 4 days out of 7.

The time passes so quickly I often wonder how people have the time to get married and how much their life changes after that.

I'm intending to give up my job when I start a family but until then I shall continue to work. I like my job and my role gives me quite a degree of autonomy. Jim seems to like his, well at least he never complains, I guess a lot of men just regard work as their function in life and would feel undervalued without it. That's how it strikes me anyway.

But I still have the sense that life moves forward very quickly now and I was wondering just how many others out there feel the same. I think those who work and have families to look after as well must find themselves particularly rushed. I heard one female describe it like being on automatic pilot.

But how many of you, like I do, feel sometimes that life is passing you by and that there is very little you can do about it. I guess that makes blogging a big waste of time.

What's your view?

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Who makes the decisions about the weekend in your place and are you happy about that?

January 28th 2008 08:15

Kiama Beach

Jim and I have had a marvellous weekend. We both love holiday weekends and like to get out and enjoy ourselves.

We spent Australia Day on the Harbour and it was really wonderful and the weather has been just so good. Nothing like that good old Aussie sun, is there?

Sunday Jim came by early and said we were going down to Kiama and to take my costume.

"Yes, sir", I replied and we both laughed. Despite the early hour Jim said he wanted to call in and see his mum. I could hardly say no and I hoped it would not be as big a surprise for his mum as it was for me.

It was just a little out of our way but in the car, with Jim driving, we were there in no time at all.

"Come on" he said, we'll go round the back way.

He called out as we entered the back door and his mum appeared in her dressing gown, looking rather surprised.

He introduced us and his mother seemed a little taken aback but she recovered quickly and invited us into the lounge where she'd been watching TV. She seemed a quiet person.

She offered us a cup of tea but Jim said we were anxious to be on our way and asked her if she'd like to come for a run down the south coast with us.

Her face lit up and she said that would be lovely.

Well, get ready mum, what's holding you up?

She skeltered off at Jim's bidding and we could hear her taking her shower. Jim got up and made himself a cup of coffee and me tea. Then he took me around the place, showing me his old rooom where some of the things he'd had as a young boy were, still.

We went out into the garden and it really was rather run down and showed me where the fences would be going, so his mum could get a dog.

Jim's mother was quick and she came back to us ready to go. She said she'd always had to compete with the boys for the bathroom and she had always been quick showering although she'd slowed down on other things because nowadays she often found she had nothing much to do.

Jim said, we'll have to get you out of this depression Mum and back to the girl you used to be. She just smiled in response. She refused Jim's offer of a cup of tea saying she knew he was anxious for us to be on our way.

Jim let her into the back seat of the car and we hopped in the front and it was all system's go.

We were at Kiama before lunch and started our walk along the beach. We both had our swimmer's on under out clothes so we were soon in that wonderful surf, making sure to keep between the flags. Mum minded our clothes so it was quite good to have someone else along.

I didn't stay in long as the sun always worried me so I got out and joined his mum in a shady spot on the beach. We both sat there watching Jim who was swimming and surfing strongly stopping every now and again to catch a big wave which he seemed to ride like a second skin.

His mother looked indulgently on. And I couldn't help smiling to myself. Jim was the youngest boy and obviously in his mother's eyes still her baby.

Soon Jim joined us and we went to find a shower and get our wet togs off. My hair was in disarray but on such occasions, who cares?

We found ourselves a nice little fish cafe and Jim asked his mum how she was enjoying herself.

This is wonderful, she replied, all these years and to-day I have a date. We all laughed.

Jim and his mother started to talk about his life growing up and Jim's mother told a few interesting anecdotes about their childhood. I enjoyed these stories and Jim's unexpected and spontaneous actions had well and truly broken the ice.

I was so pleased he was taking more interest in his mother, it's amazing what just a small amount of prompting can do.

We took a leisurely ride home and stopped for afternoon tea on the way back and on Jim's mother's enquiry I told her a little about myself and how Jim and I had come to meet.

She said it was the first time Jim had brought any of his girlfriends home since he had left when he was about 23 to rent and then buy, as he was doing so well in the banking world.

She said the others were all married, had fairly ordinary jobs and each of them had children. They were all finding it difficult to make ends meet and the wives worked casually or part time when they could but it was not easy with babies and small children.

I agreed and I found I could respond to his mother, even tho I guessed she was rather shy.

We dropped her home but we didn't stop. She stood in the driveway waving us off.

When we got back to my place Jim was feeling very pleased with himself.

"How am I doing?", he asked, and I gave him a bit hug, and told him he was wonderful.

We sat on the lounge and Tinkerbelle jumped up to join us, within minutes we were both asleep. The sun and beach and a long drive does seem to affect you that way.

To-day Jim came by early again and we were off driving once again. We have only just
got home and Jim is already asleep so I thought I'd get my post done and hopefully catch up with my replies and visit a few blogs. These things do take time and Tinkerbelle is eying me off, ready to pounce, so I'm eying her off too.

How was your weekend? Did you do everything you wanted to or would you have liked to have done something else. Who gets to make the decisions in your house about what you'll do with your weekends?

weekends - chaos?

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What annoys you most about the person you live with, and what do you do about it?

January 24th 2008 10:27

You know I don't think there is much about Jim that annoys me, but one thing that does is that he wants to put music on ALL the time. I find this very annoying but I know so many people do it. I love music but not the same things over and over again and not constantly.

Once people put those earplugs in they can't hear you and they just seem to live in their own little world, it's funny but I don't recall anyone in my family who actually does this, maybe that's why it annoys me so much.

Perhaps because Jim and I do not spend nights together I don't know if he has any little habits that annoy me or contrariwise, any little habits of mine which may annoy him.

We're both a bit obsessive about our jobs but, thankfully, neither of us believe in working unduly long hours, but who knows what Jim's work will be like in the future, I don't think any of us really know that.

As for me, I'm intending to give up work when I start a family, and Jim seems to be OK about that, I guess we're lucky that we could afford it, not that we've decided to get married yet. There's no rush.

But it is more everyday things that I am talking about maybe like spending too long in the toilet or some such other thing. So what is it that annoys you about your loved one, or just simply someone who lives under the same roof as you do?