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feelings - July 2008

Crystal answers 'THE' question, will she?

July 27th 2008 08:44

It's not hard to guess is it, Andrew thought I had given out enough vibes for him to pop the question, and I said yes.

It was such a wonderful occasion, but no ring to pop on my finger YET, thank heavens. You all must have an idea that I really want to choose it myself.

Afterwards he went to ask my father for my hand in marriage and apparently dad gave him a wry smile and said Oh, that's such a relief, we thought it would never happen.

If I weren't so happy I'd probably be annoyed, but I'm on cloud nine, does every girl feel this way when she gets engaged?

Of course, it's all very hush hush until we've got the ring and then we'll announce our engagement and mum will put on a big party, you know one of those affairs where you invite everyone that the couple hardly knows, like the relatives.

Yesterday we went to a large city jeweller, and Andrew chose that one and then we spent three hours making our choice. I really needed Andrew there as I did not know how much he wanted to spend, although he seemed happy enough to spend it, every girl's dream.

He and the salesmen were very discreet about costs and I didn't know the price of my selection.

But I am so happy with my selection and just can't wait to get it on my finger.

The colours from the diamond shoot out in a rainbow kaleidoscope in the right light and I could spend hours just looking at it and probably will.

We have been promised it will be ready for next weekend and Andrew is taking me to a lovely restaurant and I guess he'll give me the ring then.

All I know at this stage is that he's going around with a huge smile on his face, fait accompli, so to speak, the predatory male beats within the heart of many a sincere lover so I am led to believe.

It's such an exciting time.

Of course we've got heaps of things to work out but I guess that will be the story of our life from now on.

Girls do be careful of the man you choose, choose someone who has some values of a conservative nature, not the usual stud around screwing everything in sight.

It's worth the wait and then you'll have a future.

Andrew is becoming increasingly frisky and wants to get married very soon. I don't think he likes the idea of waiting any longer than two months, barely time to get everything organised.

Well, that's my news of the week, I thought I'd better put my post on a little earlier than usual as it will be go go go from now on, and after next weekend when its official everything will have to move along at a rocketing pace.

I'm feeling very dreamy, and so in love, and Tinkerbelle insists on sitting on my lap, I'm sure she know she's going to have competition from now on.

Well, everyone, I hope your weekend has been as exciting as mine, at present I want to share my good fortune with the whole world.

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Who should choose the engagement ring?

July 21st 2008 11:55

Don't worry, I haven't said YES, yet, but I'm getting closer and closer everyday.

Unfortunately, to-day is just not one of my best days. I think I've got my mind too much on romance and not nearly enough on work.

As you all know I have a very technical job and my company relies very much on my technical expertise. I know what I am doing and am very confident, but, sometimes explaining the ins and outs to others who have vague ideas, but really do not understand the issues involved nor the requirements of my job specifications can be nearly impossible.

This tends to make my task very difficult and after I have competed my quite exacting work I then have to turn around and explain it to almost technically incompetent idiots.

The fact that most of them are well paid and well dressed in no way compensates for their lack of expertise and their willingness and desire to leap straight into making the next $M without much thought of the feasibility of such an undertaking.

No wonder I'm feeling down I had one of those sorts of days to-day and for a Monday that was quite an exercise.

But I finally got the message across although I found myself having to adopt kindergarten style talk to explain things in a way which they would understand and meanwhile holding at bay their already formed assumptions of their expertise in all areas, their being male, of course, and I being a mere female, without the 20 or so years experience they assumed (incorrectly) equipped them to 'know' everything.

Sorry about all of that but I just wanted to explain why I was feeling fed up, and I could not imagine myself after such a day going home to look after a family, I am just not interested so much in either work or money.

But this post is about engagement rings, and if you don't want one or don't ever want to give one ( being, I suspect, if you're male of something of a mean temperament ) then this post is not for you so don't pay me a rare visit just to rave on about marriage being a no, no, and engagement rings a waste of money, you mean s....s.

But, who gets to choose it, do you really want your male to, who may have anything varying from exquisite taste to absolutely no taste at all.

Do you really want to be surprised as part of the romance, with his producing it unexpectedly, as if it is the Crown jewels.

Well I know I don't. I don't want a bit of string slipped surreptitiously around my finger (knowing full well what he is up to but pretending I don't) to make sure he gets the size right.

I want to choose my own, but I'm quite amenable to having a budget and choosing this precious gem together, I'm sure when the time comes I shall be besotted with mine.

We females can be a bit silly, I suppose, but time and to spare for being sensible, for the rest of our lives.

I think Andrew is getting just so randy lately he'll go along with anything I want so he can wed me and bed me as fast as he can.

It's all rather amusing really.

But, anyway, for what it's worth, who do you think should choose the engagement ring although I think in my case this is somewhat of a rhetorical question.

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Crystal wants to know what you think a responsible wife and mother is?

July 14th 2008 10:55

I certainly find myself in somewhat of a dilemma with this one.

But here I go leaping right in, let's hope I don't drown.

I'm not just thinking of my own situation here but of women generally.

Now for those who actually get off the ground when it comes to marriage, I guess one has to show one's husband love and concern, to do one's best to run and maintain the home, to contribute financially, where necessary.

As for being a mother, I think women need to look after their health, before, during and after preganancy and at the same time look after her husband's health and that of the children.

Sounds daunting, doesn't it?

But without the strict divisions of labour there used to be, housewifery skills are not so admired anymore ( which rather lets me off the hook as I don't think I shall ever come anywhere near my mother's standards ) I don't want to work when I get married but I think I really shall need some stimulation over and above children and neighbours, what few of them are home and the same can be said of friends, not that I have too many, too much study, then work and when the lightglobe went on, men.

And what about when the romance loses its bloom which I feel is almost certain to happen, what then?

It seems I am coming up with more questions than answers.

There's the question of meals and running the house, doing the shopping and all the other chores which the husband can't and won't do. I still think it is very much a man's world and from what I see of many bloggers, they have absolutely no idea of what life is really about.

There do not seem to be very many men declaring their acceptance of a responsible male role, and with gays wanting to get married, one has to wonder why heterosexual men are being let off the hook.

I guess it's about power, really,

But they are just a few of my thoughts and in endeavouring to address these matters I find myself considering the male role as much as the female's. I guess it is hard to think about one without, at the same time, thinking about the other.

But it's over to you now and it would be really nice if a number of men responded, but not at the expense of the female view, so I do hope I shall attract at least some comments, I seem to have a steady niche of readers to my diminutive blog.

So what is your view?

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