Who should choose the engagement ring?
July 21st 2008 11:55
Don't worry, I haven't said YES, yet, but I'm getting closer and closer everyday.
Unfortunately, to-day is just not one of my best days. I think I've got my mind too much on romance and not nearly enough on work.
As you all know I have a very technical job and my company relies very much on my technical expertise. I know what I am doing and am very confident, but, sometimes explaining the ins and outs to others who have vague ideas, but really do not understand the issues involved nor the requirements of my job specifications can be nearly impossible.
This tends to make my task very difficult and after I have competed my quite exacting work I then have to turn around and explain it to almost technically incompetent idiots.
The fact that most of them are well paid and well dressed in no way compensates for their lack of expertise and their willingness and desire to leap straight into making the next $M without much thought of the feasibility of such an undertaking.
No wonder I'm feeling down I had one of those sorts of days to-day and for a Monday that was quite an exercise.
But I finally got the message across although I found myself having to adopt kindergarten style talk to explain things in a way which they would understand and meanwhile holding at bay their already formed assumptions of their expertise in all areas, their being male, of course, and I being a mere female, without the 20 or so years experience they assumed (incorrectly) equipped them to 'know' everything.
Sorry about all of that but I just wanted to explain why I was feeling fed up, and I could not imagine myself after such a day going home to look after a family, I am just not interested so much in either work or money.
But this post is about engagement rings, and if you don't want one or don't ever want to give one ( being, I suspect, if you're male of something of a mean temperament ) then this post is not for you so don't pay me a rare visit just to rave on about marriage being a no, no, and engagement rings a waste of money, you mean s....s.
But, who gets to choose it, do you really want your male to, who may have anything varying from exquisite taste to absolutely no taste at all.
Do you really want to be surprised as part of the romance, with his producing it unexpectedly, as if it is the Crown jewels.
Well I know I don't. I don't want a bit of string slipped surreptitiously around my finger (knowing full well what he is up to but pretending I don't) to make sure he gets the size right.
I want to choose my own, but I'm quite amenable to having a budget and choosing this precious gem together, I'm sure when the time comes I shall be besotted with mine.
We females can be a bit silly, I suppose, but time and to spare for being sensible, for the rest of our lives.
I think Andrew is getting just so randy lately he'll go along with anything I want so he can wed me and bed me as fast as he can.
It's all rather amusing really.
But, anyway, for what it's worth, who do you think should choose the engagement ring although I think in my case this is somewhat of a rhetorical question.
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Comment by Krystal
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But I think we'll probably do it together. It would be such a thrilling experience.
It's always such a pleasure to have your visit, no-one else much comes to see me anymore but I guess I'm not here very often and most have no sense of romance and don't have my perspective on life.
Oh, well, it's their loss, at least that's less charity work I need to put in.
Once upon a time I would never have spoken like that but I've come out of my shell and I love my life.