Who makes the decisions about the weekend in your place and are you happy about that?
January 28th 2008 08:15
Kiama Beach
Jim and I have had a marvellous weekend. We both love holiday weekends and like to get out and enjoy ourselves.
We spent Australia Day on the Harbour and it was really wonderful and the weather has been just so good. Nothing like that good old Aussie sun, is there?
Sunday Jim came by early and said we were going down to Kiama and to take my costume.
"Yes, sir", I replied and we both laughed. Despite the early hour Jim said he wanted to call in and see his mum. I could hardly say no and I hoped it would not be as big a surprise for his mum as it was for me.
It was just a little out of our way but in the car, with Jim driving, we were there in no time at all.
"Come on" he said, we'll go round the back way.
He called out as we entered the back door and his mum appeared in her dressing gown, looking rather surprised.
He introduced us and his mother seemed a little taken aback but she recovered quickly and invited us into the lounge where she'd been watching TV. She seemed a quiet person.
She offered us a cup of tea but Jim said we were anxious to be on our way and asked her if she'd like to come for a run down the south coast with us.
Her face lit up and she said that would be lovely.
Well, get ready mum, what's holding you up?
She skeltered off at Jim's bidding and we could hear her taking her shower. Jim got up and made himself a cup of coffee and me tea. Then he took me around the place, showing me his old rooom where some of the things he'd had as a young boy were, still.
We went out into the garden and it really was rather run down and showed me where the fences would be going, so his mum could get a dog.
Jim's mother was quick and she came back to us ready to go. She said she'd always had to compete with the boys for the bathroom and she had always been quick showering although she'd slowed down on other things because nowadays she often found she had nothing much to do.
Jim said, we'll have to get you out of this depression Mum and back to the girl you used to be. She just smiled in response. She refused Jim's offer of a cup of tea saying she knew he was anxious for us to be on our way.
Jim let her into the back seat of the car and we hopped in the front and it was all system's go.
We were at Kiama before lunch and started our walk along the beach. We both had our swimmer's on under out clothes so we were soon in that wonderful surf, making sure to keep between the flags. Mum minded our clothes so it was quite good to have someone else along.
I didn't stay in long as the sun always worried me so I got out and joined his mum in a shady spot on the beach. We both sat there watching Jim who was swimming and surfing strongly stopping every now and again to catch a big wave which he seemed to ride like a second skin.
His mother looked indulgently on. And I couldn't help smiling to myself. Jim was the youngest boy and obviously in his mother's eyes still her baby.
Soon Jim joined us and we went to find a shower and get our wet togs off. My hair was in disarray but on such occasions, who cares?
We found ourselves a nice little fish cafe and Jim asked his mum how she was enjoying herself.
This is wonderful, she replied, all these years and to-day I have a date. We all laughed.
Jim and his mother started to talk about his life growing up and Jim's mother told a few interesting anecdotes about their childhood. I enjoyed these stories and Jim's unexpected and spontaneous actions had well and truly broken the ice.
I was so pleased he was taking more interest in his mother, it's amazing what just a small amount of prompting can do.
We took a leisurely ride home and stopped for afternoon tea on the way back and on Jim's mother's enquiry I told her a little about myself and how Jim and I had come to meet.
She said it was the first time Jim had brought any of his girlfriends home since he had left when he was about 23 to rent and then buy, as he was doing so well in the banking world.
She said the others were all married, had fairly ordinary jobs and each of them had children. They were all finding it difficult to make ends meet and the wives worked casually or part time when they could but it was not easy with babies and small children.
I agreed and I found I could respond to his mother, even tho I guessed she was rather shy.
We dropped her home but we didn't stop. She stood in the driveway waving us off.
When we got back to my place Jim was feeling very pleased with himself.
"How am I doing?", he asked, and I gave him a bit hug, and told him he was wonderful.
We sat on the lounge and Tinkerbelle jumped up to join us, within minutes we were both asleep. The sun and beach and a long drive does seem to affect you that way.
To-day Jim came by early again and we were off driving once again. We have only just
got home and Jim is already asleep so I thought I'd get my post done and hopefully catch up with my replies and visit a few blogs. These things do take time and Tinkerbelle is eying me off, ready to pounce, so I'm eying her off too.
How was your weekend? Did you do everything you wanted to or would you have liked to have done something else. Who gets to make the decisions in your house about what you'll do with your weekends?
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Comment by Michaelie
Flick Wit
What sort of costume was it that Jim bid you wear?
Oh, you mean your bathers. I see.
Michaelie
Comment by Krystal
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Michaelie you really are a flick WIT, I love your humour but you didn't answer the question, just goes to show how artistic you are.
I guess I know the answer, you make them and you often annoys you and you just may want to do something else.
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Glad you had a good weekend Crystal!
Comment by Sandra
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Most of the time i decide, because i plan things and S.works.
We don't have much time together even though we live together and have a 3 year old.
Most of the time we just do what we want separately in the week, as there isnt an endless variety of babysitting options at hand.
But when we do go out together it feels like we've just met and is very fun.
I couldnt drag him for runs in the forest, or on a horseback, or at raves if i gave him a million anyways!!!
And to be honest just being by myself is such a luxury these days, i treasure it!
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