Would you date someone you work with?
February 17th 2008 06:18
Andrew is a dream to go out with. We went to such a beautiful restaurant and our meal was just superb. They had a small orchestra and in between courses we danced. The service was slow but that was good, that gave us plenty of time to dance and we were not hurried on.
It was so delicious, my gustatory juices flow readily just thinking about it.
We talked a lot about ourselves and what our hopes and dreams in life were. He was just so smooth but absolutely proper in every way. From my perspective he was a dream date.
We shared many jokes and working together did give us a tapestry on which to thread our comedy. Laughter really lightened us up and we communicated really well with each other.
Afterwards, neither of us wanted to go home so we found a piano bar and sat listening to the music and enjoyed another round of drinks and some more refreshments.
We ended the evening strolling the streets, holding hands, in the wee small hours. The temperature was divine and we were quite close to a beach so we could hear the water washing up and breaking on the sand.
At last he took me home and suggested he pick me up later than we'd planned the next day giving us both a chance to sleep in.
He suggested 11, which was just as well as I woke sleepily at 10 and contemplated my wardrobe. He warned me to wear old clothes and especially old shoes as it got rather muddy and dirty under foot.
Well, I did not have too many old clothes and shoes but by the time I got home, let me tell you, those shoes were decidedly the worse for wear and even a good scrubbing was not going to bring them up to par. So now I do have a pair of old shoes which I shall keep on stand by for the next such occasion.
Andrew's hobby farm was just so cute, chooks and ducks running around, a couple of dogs, an old horse who just loved Andrew, vegetable gardens and fruit trees and an old man, a true blue creature of the earth, who looks after it all and lives in the run down cottage.
He was quite a character but Andrew said he wouldn't know what to do without him.
On the way up Andrew had stopped at a little shop which he obviously knew and after we'd had our initial look around he took me to a big old tree and spread an old blanket down for us. By this time my shoes were looking very grubby and muddy indeed but this spot was dry. He spread some food out and invited me to tuck in. It's amazing how hungry one gets in the country.
Afterwards we lay on the blanket looking up at the sky and clouds and for a short time both of us fell asleep until one of the dogs came up and started barking at Andrew.
That woke us both, but we continued to lie there looking out over the small stream and watching some of the native birds.
By the time he took me further afield to see some of the rest of the place it was time to go home.
He dropped me off, saying he wouldn't stay and we should both rest up Sunday after our prolonged outings. I agreed, although I did have to do my shopping which I did not have time to do yesterday.
I'd tell you how I feel but I have actually been too tired to feel anything much, all I know is that I liked him a LOT. He said he'd 'give me a ring' but many a girl I've heard bemoaning her fate saying they always say they'll give you a ring but they don't.
What do you think?
And how do you feel about dating people you work with. Have you ever done it or would you like to?
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1. From the same company
2. From the same course at uni
3. From the same friendship circle
4. Family friends
5. Anyone my friends know
Call me stubborn, but I just don't
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up till now your characterisation of the almost mind numbingly boring, self centred "Crystal" has been marked by its excruciating and exquisitely implicit satire. With this piece and its predecessor however, it seems you have declared your writer's voice - not always a good thing in a first person piece - by debauching into full blown, explicit satire. If I was your editor I would be concerned here, for now the direction can only be maintained at this level, as the reader will expect it now that they have "heard your intent". Mind you, this could make the story even funnier for those of us who have been following its remarkable development. (I say remarkable because even now, if I am not mistaken, there are still a few who continue to believe it is non fiction.)
So what next? Will Crystal, along with the horsey and the dogs and ducks and chooks, also be introduced to Andrew's one eyed trouser snake? Or is he for the chop, too? Will Crystal ever get what she truly needs? We wait with bated breath...
Comment by Louie
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sounds like a good match,...... its ok to date a work person in my books just no one night stands (doesn't sound like you
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For the record, personally: No dating co-workers ... but, I don't think you should follow any text book either, where love is concerned.
My husband and I ran a newspaper together for seven years, but I'm not sure that counts here?
Nyehoo, for a really good no-nonsense approach try a book called Jane Austen's Guide to Dating .... it's not penned by her, but you can certainly see what she was getting at, which is as timesless as time itself and certainly won't have you sitting by the phone on some rampant tangent with an egg timer, to make sure that the 'phone call' when it comes... doesn't have to be a set number of minutes per date, dependant on the sequence number of that date. *rolling eyes*
In summary, I think you need only worry if the guy is your boss Krystal, otherwise it's carte blanche, isn't it ....although the question might be more, 'how you feel about living on farms?'
Lilla ...
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We'll be celebrating our 5th year together in May!
Of course not all dating-co-workers stories end that way, it depends highly on the bond that you shared more than how romantic the setting of a date is. For as long as you felt that genuine connection, and for as long as you are both open to the possibilities of going beyond just dating, then it's a risk worth taking.
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Bronny, Andrew is just a few years older than I am. He is still a young man. No gripes, please.
That’s the way Holly, someone positive.
Amy, you sure eliminated a lot of people, rules were meant to be broken. I’m not a baby, I’ll handle it.
Grumps, dear oh dear oh dear, what on earth shall I do with you. But you’ve written me a lovely long comment, you grumpy old thing. I’m not here to impress anyone, Grumps, no editor tells me what to do. I’m glad you await with bated breathe, much better than being breathless. I love chooks, horses, dogs, ducks and anything else that can be rustled up on a farm. I do not like snakes, of any description. I don’t think Andrew wants to be a farmer, it’s just a hobby farm. Someone else does the work, i.e. the old man in the shack.
Louie, no demeaning one night stands for me, I have far too good an opinion of myself. I should perhaps have said a nano orchestra, just a small number of multi talented musicians really, more of an instrumental group I guess. But they were ‘live’ musicians. It was not a cheap venue. Trust me.
Lilla, still laughing, would you like to take over this blog? No, I do not fancy living on a farm. Although funnier things have happened. Good one. Te he.
Techno, perish the thought of you dating an ugly girl. Could take the financial pressure off, if she has a rich daddy, though.
WYS, some words of encouragement, sounds good to me, opportunity knocks but once, lay hold of the day, my grandmother taught me.
Lourensh, Good thinking, but we don’t work in the same area, so our paths don’t cross much. Early days yet but thanks for your concern. Whatever happens, I’m a big girl, I’ll handle it. I am not married to my job. There are other places to work.
Thanks, everyone for your thought provoking comments and concern and to Grumps for telling me what a bitch I am. I’ll have to watch that. I rather like myself.
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well.... love will be found in the strangest of places so you can never say never! Personally i would try to steer clear of an office romance, but you can be hit by it from behind.
Hopefullty it works out for you!
Ash
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