Crystal wants to know
February 28th 2008 06:50
Well, I think I'm really starting to sort myself out about my love life, I think it was easier before when I didn't have any love life. I'm fast beginning to think I am not the marrying kind and really children do sound like a lot of sacrifice and hard work.
Wow, aren't I negative to-day, I guess life is becoming a bit more compex than I realised, work seems so easy in comparison and Tinkerbelle really does as she' s told most of the time and the rest of the time I just lock her up in the cat run, which, of course, may be a good solution with children, apart from the 'naughty seat' but I doubt whether I'll find a man who would appreciate that as a solution and if I found it successful with him, he may well want to try the same thing with me.
That having been said it is now back to Andrew and me. Me, I can handle, Andrew I'm not too sure, just how long is he going to take to get his house, let alone his hobby farm sorted out and I don't think he'd manage at all without that funny old guy helping him out, but that arrangement seems very loose to me, but it seems to suit them both for the present anyway.
This weekend Andrew is taking me over to see his house, he's warned me that it is pretty messy and I'm wondering just what pretty messy means and how he still manages to look so well groomed at work.
I guess I'll just have to wait and see, do men always just plunge into things and hope it all works out?
So, this weekend, instead of the usually pleasurable one I have been used to experiencing is going to be rather challenging and it seems the 'talkfest' is imminent, if it's not going to work the sooner I move on the better.
But I do like Andrew very much and it could be said I have genuine feelings for him and naturally I find him attractive or I would not have bothered with him in the first place.
I suppose I'm sounding like a cruel bitch, but to me I'm just a practical one and let's not forget that I am no longer a teenager.
So now all I need to know is how long do you give a relationship before deciding if it is not going to work.
I think Andrew and I will remain an item but I am shocked by the implications of what he has taken on and what, in the long run, it may all mean.
So how long do you give a relationship before deciding whether it is working or not? Of course, if it's seriously deficient one should get out as soon as possible, but every relationship has it's ups and downs ( double entendre NOT intended) and must be given a reasonable period of time to develop. But, just how long should that be?
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Comment by Michaelie
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Comment by Sven Topp
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I would have said a tad self centred maybe and a little too interested in the skin deep qualities.
As for kids...
As a Deafblind Dad yes it's a challenge. But its very rewarding and in my view well worth the sacrifices one needs to make.
Comment by Krystal
feelings
Sven, I think you’re a little tough, sacrifices, that’s WHY I want to get married and have children and be a stay at home mum, the remarks about children were a little tongue in cheek, when that little one grows up a bit you’ll understand what I mean, unless you are going to keep it in cotton wool, forgive me if I appear a trifle shallow on a BAD day, not every day is good, I am really a very deep person and like to think about everything I do, but I look for security and love and companionship and caring and sharing a life together and riding through good and bad times together, but I don’t think that would work very well nowadays in a shack, and I don’t think the kids would like that.
Having values does not diminish one to being skin deep, but I can see that you adore being a dad and at this stage any consideration that they could be less than perfect is just not for you.
Keep loving that dear little mite, but don’t interpret independence from a successful woman as being self-centered.
I thought you'd both like the cartoon, I thought it was hilarious.
Comment by Rosemary
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People keep on changing through life and it's how you both handle the changes over time that will be the clincher.
Comment by Louie
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good luck, relationships are worth it, trust me
Comment by Norm
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Comment by Norm
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If you don't already.
Wink, wink.
Comment by AmyHuang
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Crystal, as you have already read in my posts that I've learnt a lot of these the hard way so good on you for being so wise! My record is 6 years, but it was my first so I congratulate myself at finally realising it wasn't good.
I do tend to agree with Louie in a way too - relationships are worth it - but only the right ones. Even if a good one unfortunately ends in the end, it leaves you many good memories! (and of course, in my case, lessons too)
Comment by Techno
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We gave up Prince Charming fairy tales years ago, there's nothing wrong with having a practical turn of mind, and do remember bloggers are not truly representative of current opinion, but whatever current opinion is, you're still entitled to your own.
Comment by The wonderful Peter Yang
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Comment by Krystal
feelings
Thanks Louie, but I don’t just want a relationship, I want to get married and have children, as you know.
Norm, romantic fool, yes,
Norm, I guess I should take up the fine arts like every young lady, pity I’m not the type.
Amy, I’m sure there’s a lot of truth in what you say but I think you and I and Louie want different things from life.
Thanks techno, it’s lovely to have someone approve of me.
Katyzzz, I am so grateful to hear that.
Wonderful Peter, I fear that is just the position too many young men take nowadays, not much in it for the female and having that male to lean on. It’s quite something to produce and rear children ,you know, and I want a man who takes responsibility not one who just drifts along, but you’ll probably change as you get older, or really fall in love, it does happen you know.