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Where are the red blooded men?

November 14th 2007 08:41

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Tinkerbelle and I are having take-away, sshsh, don't tell anyone.

You see I went to my socialising class to-night so I've only just got home really.

Now, I'm sure you're all dying to know what I came up with for my homework.

1. I'd like my dates to lead somewhere.

2. I want to get married.

3. I want to settle down SOON.

So how was that? Do you agree or do you think I should have thought of some better things?

I arrived early as I went straight from work, and there were not many people there. The married man was, so rather than hang about and fall victim to him I took myself off to have a look at the local shops, arriving back just as the class was commencing.

It seemed we'd had a number of drop outs and when I mentioned this the teacher said not to worry as this is usual for this sort of class.

She asked about our homework and off someone went about the internet claiming it was the only way to meet anyone nowadays and this turned into a general discussion. For people who have trouble socialising they certainly did not have any trouble whingeing.

I just could not resist it so directed my remarks to the married man, saying, surely you're not here to meet a partner because you already have one, so how is it you think your skills are lacking?

He wriggled uncomfortably in his seat which made me feel good and everyone looked at him. He started to talk about work and I asked him had he done his homework and what did he put down.

I felt very empowered with my attack but the teacher intervened and took back control of the class but I had got my point across and I feel quite sure he'll not give me any more trouble.

I'm sorry but the internet took up most of the evening, and no-one was interested in my homework or anyone else's the teacher saying it was just an exercise and having done it, the purpose of it was already achieved.

Well, tell me about it, do you mean I am going to a group where I am expected to come up with the answers myself.

I did get in asking about why my dates didn't seem to lead anywhere and other than saying that it was great I was getting dates and everyone in agreement with that it seems I am to continue dating forever, getting no further towards my target.

Oh, well, them's the breaks, as the saying goes.

The class wound up slowly but surely and really we were not getting on too badly so it seems most of us do have reasonable socialising skills, we just don't realise it. How profound?

So, help me out, what do I do next and where am I going wrong and am I so old fashioned expecting the man to do the running, or are there just no REAL MEN with a capital M and plenty of testosterone, or have they taken in too much oestrogen as has been put forward for their "lame" activities.

What do you all think and it would be great to hear from some really red blooded men but not society's dregs. Some males who have something going for them and don't just hang around until the female pushes them into it.

Remember I did not get on in my job by being unable to express myself maybe I have a bit too much red blood in me, but I do feel very feminine, unless such cliches have gone out of fashion.

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Comment by AmyHuang

November 14th 2007 12:17

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I'd really suggest not to be hoping for a "REAL MAN" - most of the men that claims to be real men reckon they are too good for females and will probably end up leaving you at home while he goes out to the pub everynight to have beer with his mates (and no you can't come along because it's a bloke thing) - for be at the footy every Friday and never spend time with you.

What I find is, men who are comfortable with themselves as well as being with you are the best. If they are slightly domesticated that's even better. It doesn't mean they are not men - it just means you are more likely to see them more often and be happy with them

I like the attack on the married man! Good on you. I wonder if he'll be the drop out next.

Comment by Anonymous

November 14th 2007 15:43

all the REAL men are in gay bars these days!

and instead of all your points, discard the lot, get one hundred million dollars, like I've got, and then all your men problems cease....you HIRE by the hour!!!!

Comment by Michaelie

November 14th 2007 15:58

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Crystal, I still don't get what the married man did to you to make you take against him and humiliate him. In fact I don't get why you've taken against several of the people you have spoken about.

Wanted to ask before but don't know if you want questions/comments in this vein? If not, I'll just keep them to myself, but I think I told you before how we went about things very differently, and you told me to elaborate on what I don't get... so I am.

I don't understand your marriage schedule, and such strong desire to be a wife, or why you think love and marriage must naturally be the same thing. I also don't understand what you mean by talking about REAL MEN all the time. What is your idea of a real man? What are your expectations of a man, as a man, as a friend, as a date, as a husband? Do you also have ideas of what a REAL WOMAN is?

I find your posts interesting, but I often don't get a proper grasp on what you're saying, and I never know what is real or not. You use a lot of pics that aren't yours, but corresponding to things that are yours, so I never know if any are supposed to be real, or indicative of real situations in your life. Also, when you have lists of thoughts I don't know if you got them from a survey somewhere on the internet, or if they are what you think or what other people in your life think...

Sorry for such a long message! Your reactions and outlooks on things are just so different to mine, and pretty much everyone I know, so I'm just trying to get a clearer idea of where you are coming from because I must say it fascinates me as much as it confuses me!

Michaelie

Comment by tlcorbin-raginravensview

November 14th 2007 18:27

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Krystal

Most of us 'Real Men' have moved outback or to Alaska and hope to find find real women with whom we can share our lives, Carhartt's and Sorels. Because we generally wind up being the same size and with similarly dispositions.

Honestly, when you decide that you are worthy, those of my fellows that haven't gone flip side will find you more attractive. Why would we find you appealing if you can't see yourself in that same vein? Get that right and your confidence and self esteem will prove very alluring to those seriously searching for a quality lady.

Raven

Comment by Louie

November 14th 2007 22:43

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The moment you don't want one they will flock to you.....Real Men want what they can't have

....... go get a girlfriend and see how many guys want to marry you then

cheers

P.S. only kidding

Comment by tlcorbin-raginravensview

November 15th 2007 02:18

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Louie

Hey, Krystal; she's right.

If the local real men are that shallow, you and a girlfriend would crank up their interest levels about dating. Of course don't look for anything long term and meaningful with that kind of relationship. That would net you crude, course, shallow and wildly sexual possibilities until the reality of an STD, pregnancy or turning tricks in a carnival side show manifested.

When you figure out who you are, then it's time to figure out what you want in a friend, lover or life mate. Until then, don't be in a hurry; you'll be hormonally deranged for years, so don't worry about missing the family boat. Develop your art of personality first, it'll pay huge dividends.

Raven

Comment by Mal

November 15th 2007 04:26

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We're hiding from girls like you.

Comment by Aimzster

November 15th 2007 05:44

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Krystal, you're not alone in this. I have many gfs who are becoming increasingly frustrated because they think that by a certain age, they should be settled with kids already. And my advice is always the same : don't compare yourself to that cousin of a similiar age who's seemingly blissfully married with five children; don't over-analyse things and most important of all, don't put so much pressure on yourself to find Mr Right. I find that people (not just men) who put too much pressure on themselves end up giving out the wrong signals so it's like catch 22. The right person usually comes along when you're not looking - which I know is not a good consolation judging from the glares and the cold emails of 'whatever' I get but I wouldn't know what else to say.

Comment by Techno

November 15th 2007 06:58

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Here I am, I'm surprised you didn't know that.

Comment by Lara M

November 15th 2007 07:43

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When your heart, mind and soul is in the right *mode*, that's when you'll attract the *right* person. It's also a matter of the *right* time. U need to love yourself first...here are some insightful comments from fellow Orblers.

Comment by Krystal

November 15th 2007 08:29

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Krystal,

I can kind of see where you coming from. Being a single girl myself, I have started to question where all the decent or real blokes are. Cos all I seem to come across are the assholes!

Mind you, I'm not on a schedule to get married either. So I'm happy having a good time. To be perfectly honest, that schedule is probably not helping you. Blokes can smell that a mile away......and will run for the hills!!

Hope it all works out

Kylie

Comment by Mountain Fog

November 16th 2007 09:53

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HEAVENS KRYSTAL!!!!

SUCH A LOOOOONNNNNNG RESPONSE!!!

I would never have thought you had it in you... or anything else it would seem, by the sound of your post!
Frankly, I'd try chatting up the multi-millionaire "anonymous dude", well, that is, if he is a he!!!!

Probably a rich transgender, or even an hermaphrodite!!! That would be better!! Best of both worlds!!!

Now...you never know!!?!! You just might LOVE IT!!! And her/his money of course!

Then you could post real photos of your real McMansion!!!

tee hee!!!

cheers

fog

Comment by Lilla

November 17th 2007 23:44

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Hey Mitchell,

That is some of the best advice I have read in years!

Bravo.

Lilla ...

Comment by Lilla

November 17th 2007 23:45

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Krystal,

Truly, I think Mitchel and Raven have hit the spot here, don't you?

You need to broaden your pleasure base.

Lilla ...

Comment by Krystal

November 19th 2007 05:47

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Kylie, I feel for you, if only the balance of numbers was not so bad, things might improve, lot of rats, I'm afraid.

Lilla, just what do you mean by widen my pleasure base? Sounds a bit iffy to me.

Thank you all fo popping by.

Comment by Michaelie

November 19th 2007 08:18

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Hi Crystal,

I wrote a big long message the other day and it didnt send so I got annoyed and refused to type it again. It basically said thanks for giving a more in depth explanation of where you're coming from blah, blah, blah.

The interesting part is that we have such different perspectives on life - that's not what I have trouble understanding, it's WHY. I meant that I never get a sense of the reasoning behind your opinions and experiences, or even know if they are your opinions and experiences sometimes. That's what I have trouble grasping with your posts. But I will continue to read and enjoy your stories!

I do want to ask a question though - what is the wildest, most outrageous and unpredictable thing you have ever done?

Please don't say buying a cat, having drinks after work, or ordering takeaway. Lol.

This is just sharing my feelings on my taking your approach to this, not anthing else, but I would feel stifled by the business-like method you are taking! I need to have fun sometimes and feel alive and just DO things without fear, even though I'm also very conscientious and in control with work and things in general. I've never seen anyone quite do what you're doing, with the schedule for marriage, and the strategies for achieving your target, for interviewing canditates, etc... It truly fascinates me, but then I wonder how you're going to end up if you don't consider - or if you just out and out baulk at - suggestions like Lilla's, Mitchell's, etc?

But then, I don't know. This is just socio-psycho analytic side of me reemerging!

Michaelie

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