Where are the red blooded men?
November 14th 2007 08:41
Red blooded men
Tinkerbelle and I are having take-away, sshsh, don't tell anyone.
You see I went to my socialising class to-night so I've only just got home really.
Now, I'm sure you're all dying to know what I came up with for my homework.
1. I'd like my dates to lead somewhere.
2. I want to get married.
3. I want to settle down SOON.
So how was that? Do you agree or do you think I should have thought of some better things?
I arrived early as I went straight from work, and there were not many people there. The married man was, so rather than hang about and fall victim to him I took myself off to have a look at the local shops, arriving back just as the class was commencing.
It seemed we'd had a number of drop outs and when I mentioned this the teacher said not to worry as this is usual for this sort of class.
She asked about our homework and off someone went about the internet claiming it was the only way to meet anyone nowadays and this turned into a general discussion. For people who have trouble socialising they certainly did not have any trouble whingeing.
I just could not resist it so directed my remarks to the married man, saying, surely you're not here to meet a partner because you already have one, so how is it you think your skills are lacking?
I felt very empowered with my attack but the teacher intervened and took back control of the class but I had got my point across and I feel quite sure he'll not give me any more trouble.
I'm sorry but the internet took up most of the evening, and no-one was interested in my homework or anyone else's the teacher saying it was just an exercise and having done it, the purpose of it was already achieved.
Well, tell me about it, do you mean I am going to a group where I am expected to come up with the answers myself.
I did get in asking about why my dates didn't seem to lead anywhere and other than saying that it was great I was getting dates and everyone in agreement with that it seems I am to continue dating forever, getting no further towards my target.
Oh, well, them's the breaks, as the saying goes.
The class wound up slowly but surely and really we were not getting on too badly so it seems most of us do have reasonable socialising skills, we just don't realise it. How profound?
So, help me out, what do I do next and where am I going wrong and am I so old fashioned expecting the man to do the running, or are there just no REAL MEN with a capital M and plenty of testosterone, or have they taken in too much oestrogen as has been put forward for their "lame" activities.
What do you all think and it would be great to hear from some really red blooded men but not society's dregs. Some males who have something going for them and don't just hang around until the female pushes them into it.
Remember I did not get on in my job by being unable to express myself maybe I have a bit too much red blood in me, but I do feel very feminine, unless such cliches have gone out of fashion.
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Comment by AmyHuang
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What I find is, men who are comfortable with themselves as well as being with you are the best. If they are slightly domesticated that's even better. It doesn't mean they are not men - it just means you are more likely to see them more often and be happy with them
I like the attack on the married man! Good on you. I wonder if he'll be the drop out next.
Comment by Anonymous
and instead of all your points, discard the lot, get one hundred million dollars, like I've got, and then all your men problems cease....you HIRE by the hour!!!!
Comment by Michaelie
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Wanted to ask before but don't know if you want questions/comments in this vein? If not, I'll just keep them to myself, but I think I told you before how we went about things very differently, and you told me to elaborate on what I don't get... so I am.
I don't understand your marriage schedule, and such strong desire to be a wife, or why you think love and marriage must naturally be the same thing. I also don't understand what you mean by talking about REAL MEN all the time. What is your idea of a real man? What are your expectations of a man, as a man, as a friend, as a date, as a husband? Do you also have ideas of what a REAL WOMAN is?
I find your posts interesting, but I often don't get a proper grasp on what you're saying, and I never know what is real or not. You use a lot of pics that aren't yours, but corresponding to things that are yours, so I never know if any are supposed to be real, or indicative of real situations in your life. Also, when you have lists of thoughts I don't know if you got them from a survey somewhere on the internet, or if they are what you think or what other people in your life think...
Sorry for such a long message! Your reactions and outlooks on things are just so different to mine, and pretty much everyone I know, so I'm just trying to get a clearer idea of where you are coming from because I must say it fascinates me as much as it confuses me!
Michaelie
Comment by tlcorbin-raginravensview
Most of us 'Real Men' have moved outback or to Alaska and hope to find find real women with whom we can share our lives, Carhartt's and Sorels. Because we generally wind up being the same size and with similarly dispositions.
Honestly, when you decide that you are worthy, those of my fellows that haven't gone flip side will find you more attractive. Why would we find you appealing if you can't see yourself in that same vein? Get that right and your confidence and self esteem will prove very alluring to those seriously searching for a quality lady.
Raven
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Comment by tlcorbin-raginravensview
Hey, Krystal; she's right.
If the local real men are that shallow, you and a girlfriend would crank up their interest levels about dating. Of course don't look for anything long term and meaningful with that kind of relationship. That would net you crude, course, shallow and wildly sexual possibilities until the reality of an STD, pregnancy or turning tricks in a carnival side show manifested.
When you figure out who you are, then it's time to figure out what you want in a friend, lover or life mate. Until then, don't be in a hurry; you'll be hormonally deranged for years, so don't worry about missing the family boat. Develop your art of personality first, it'll pay huge dividends.
Raven
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The married man had the 'look in his eye' he was 'on the make' as every red blooded male will recognise and many real women should, for their own sake.
It is all right to think differently that is the diversity of life, about the pictures and where I get things from I see that as being totally irrelevant, they are just symbols. Continue to express yourself and talk about your feelings, if you don't understand mine, that's fine.
I guess being a late starter I am anxious about getting on with the prospects of life and I do think love (rather than lust) and marriage do go together, I am not prepared to accept less.
I have a high opinion of myself and I am not about to accept second best that does not mean I expect men to be perfect just to subscribe to a certain code ot erhics.
I'm sorry if you don't understand me, why not just come along for the ride anyway, these things are not meant to be take too seriously although I am serious about my intent, but I am supposed to be talkin about feelings not just my own pusuits.
Love seeing you as always.
May we agree to differ from time to time.
Comment by Krystal
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I know I'm atrractive and have sex appeal, it hasn't taken me long to work that out, but I guess I'm somewhat impatient.
It's good to have a manly view.
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Comment by Mitchell Hooter
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Here is my advice:
1. Sell your TV set. I've been TV-free for 13 years. TV is one of the main sources of the 'marriage equals happiness' lie.
2. Don't buy women's magazines. All do is hurt your self-esteem by urging you to compare yourself with Photoshopped fifteen-year-olds and telling you that you have to buy this dress or that mascara to be attractive to men.
3. Enjoy one-night-stands for what they are and don't expect them to lead anywhere.
4. Don't have rigid rules or 'standards' about what sort of man you want.
5. Above all--R-E-L-A-X.
6. Enjoy your single life while you can. Once you're married, you'll occasionally be nostalgic for it!
Comment by Krystal
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battingdating average lately, I'm doing just fine it seems.Comment by Krystal
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Men are answerable in all this, too.
I agree about TV and magazines, we live in a crazy world, I've had enough of being single though, it's time, and I do believe in standards for BOTH, it's the only way to go.
But thank you so much for sharing your views, I am sure many of my readers will agree with you even if I don't.
Comment by KylieW
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I can kind of see where you coming from. Being a single girl myself, I have started to question where all the decent or real blokes are. Cos all I seem to come across are the assholes!
Mind you, I'm not on a schedule to get married either. So I'm happy having a good time. To be perfectly honest, that schedule is probably not helping you. Blokes can smell that a mile away......and will run for the hills!!
Hope it all works out
Kylie
Comment by Mountain Fog
SUCH A LOOOOONNNNNNG RESPONSE!!!
I would never have thought you had it in you... or anything else it would seem, by the sound of your post!
Frankly, I'd try chatting up the multi-millionaire "anonymous dude", well, that is, if he is a he!!!!
Probably a rich transgender, or even an hermaphrodite!!! That would be better!! Best of both worlds!!!
Now...you never know!!?!! You just might LOVE IT!!! And her/his money of course!
Then you could post real photos of your real McMansion!!!
tee hee!!!
cheers
fog
Comment by Lilla
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That is some of the best advice I have read in years!
Bravo.
Lilla ...
Comment by Lilla
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Truly, I think Mitchel and Raven have hit the spot here, don't you?
You need to broaden your pleasure base.
Lilla ...
Comment by Krystal
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Lilla, just what do you mean by widen my pleasure base? Sounds a bit iffy to me.
Thank you all fo popping by.
Comment by Michaelie
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I wrote a big long message the other day and it didnt send so I got annoyed and refused to type it again. It basically said thanks for giving a more in depth explanation of where you're coming from blah, blah, blah.
The interesting part is that we have such different perspectives on life - that's not what I have trouble understanding, it's WHY. I meant that I never get a sense of the reasoning behind your opinions and experiences, or even know if they are your opinions and experiences sometimes. That's what I have trouble grasping with your posts. But I will continue to read and enjoy your stories!
I do want to ask a question though - what is the wildest, most outrageous and unpredictable thing you have ever done?
Please don't say buying a cat, having drinks after work, or ordering takeaway. Lol.
This is just sharing my feelings on my taking your approach to this, not anthing else, but I would feel stifled by the business-like method you are taking! I need to have fun sometimes and feel alive and just DO things without fear, even though I'm also very conscientious and in control with work and things in general. I've never seen anyone quite do what you're doing, with the schedule for marriage, and the strategies for achieving your target, for interviewing canditates, etc... It truly fascinates me, but then I wonder how you're going to end up if you don't consider - or if you just out and out baulk at - suggestions like Lilla's, Mitchell's, etc?
But then, I don't know. This is just socio-psycho analytic side of me reemerging!
Michaelie