What do you do about unidentifiable tension, is this a worry for you?
April 21st 2008 09:16
Sometimes it's hard to think what a new post should be all about. But I've been feeling a bit tense lately and I really do not know what is causing it.
Everything seems to be going well and yet there's this nagging feeling at the back of my mind.
I've been dreaming quite a lot as well and sometimes wake up thinking, oh, it was only a dream, thank heavens for that.
I'm feeling rather new to all of this feelings stuff and some people seem to depend far more on their feelings than others. Have you notice this too or is it just me.
I read recently that
sometimes you just need to stare at something different to clean your mind and bring yourself back into focus.
I've never heard of that, perhaps I should try it. Have you ever had experiences like this?
Apparently rational thinking does not really solve the problem although I would have thought it did, but I do not know that I have seen any lifting of my tension no matter how rationally I try to work it out.
I'm only just starting to use and tune into my feelings and I guess that is why I write this blog.
Mind you I am not asking you for the reasons for MY tension, I'm just asking do you ever feel this way and perhaps some of you know more about these things than I do.
I've tried the getting back to nature bit and playing with the cat, visiting the parents, and as always Andrew and I enjoy each other's company but still there is this lurking tension.
I guess most people think I'm lucky but we are all human and all have problems whether lucky or not so although I would like to apologise to those less well off than myself it still does not throw any light on my own particular feelings.
Do these things get worse or better as one ages. I would have thought the older you get the easier life becomes and I'm sure that in some ways this is true.
I'd love to know your thoughts on tension and what causes unidentifiable tension and what relieves it, or does it just suddenly go away?
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Comment by Cheryl J
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Is it tension or anxiety you are feeling? There is a difference and because of that there is a different way of handling them. Tension is usually a worry about something specific and addressing the problem usually alleviates it. Meditation, yoga and even exercise are all good for relieving tension whereas it's very hard to pinpoint where anxiety stems from and as you described it feels unidentifiable.
I started having 'anxiety attacks' last year after my brother was diagnosed with cancer. Now they pop up, usually with nothing that seems to have been a specific cause, although I do get anxious in certain social situations now, I'm not so great with crowds. Your heart rate goes up, your thoughts kind of whirl, you can feel tightness in your chest and sometimes even sweaty or dizzy. Meditation also helps with this and controlled breathing. Sometimes just stopping an laying on the bed picturing a nice space and concentrating on your breathing can work wonders. In extremes, if it gets overwhelming there are medications that are really helpful.
I went to talk to a psychologist who helped me realise that my coping mechanisms had been compromised by an overwhelming event and taught me some strategies to deal with them when they happen. She also helped me to see that it happens to a lot of people for a lot of different reasons. I guess what I'm saying is, if there are reasons you are tense then it's perfectly normal that you feel that way while the cause exists. What you are doing sounds great and maybe yoga or meditation might help but if you feel tense and don't know why, maybe you could talk to someone that could help you sort through it. I have a great friend that I call when I feel the anxiety getting too much that understands what I'm going through who just gives unconditional support, plus talking to the psychologist gave me tools to help get things back to normal.
You're definitely not alone in what you're feeling either way. Life can get pretty stressful and everyone has so much on their plates now, I think you'd find most people have some underlying tension. Hope this helps.
Comment by Louie
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Comment by tlcorbin
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Comment by Krystal
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Those are serious issues you talk of and perhaps I overstated my problem, somehow those feelings of mine have gone away, I got to thinking about just what it was that could be worrying me, I think it is that I waited so long before realizing and working on my social incompetence and when I acknowledged that, things just happened so quickly, and now I have Andrew and the promise of a very happy future, maybe I was thinking I’ve been too lucky and worried that the bubble was about to burst.
But I do have a lot of readers, some of whom I inherited with more concerns than myself and I think your long and generous words could really help some of those, much more than I could. So I would like to express my appreciation.
I feel sure most people do have some underlying tension, as you say.
Your anxiety attacks must have been quite frightening and I am so pleased you shared those experiences with us. You seem to have adopted all of the right techniques and guidance to help you through it. Well done.
Louie, I think it’s great to be able to cry, I am not too good at it, some people I know cry so easily, I see the tears well in their eyes and then spill over into floods, although not too good in public, in private or with good friends it is a great thing to be able to do.
Raven, may I suggest your comments are deep and cryptic, well done, but how do you FEEL about that?
Thank you all so much for your visits.
Comment by tlcorbin
I have extreme hyper vigilance and PTSD, so for me to gage what would be the normal range for tension is nearly impossible; I am the resultant of better living through chemistry and more importantly, from the gift of love brought into my life in the guise of my wife.
Raven