Crystal wants to know what you think a responsible wife and mother is?
July 14th 2008 10:55
I certainly find myself in somewhat of a dilemma with this one.
But here I go leaping right in, let's hope I don't drown.
I'm not just thinking of my own situation here but of women generally.
Now for those who actually get off the ground when it comes to marriage, I guess one has to show one's husband love and concern, to do one's best to run and maintain the home, to contribute financially, where necessary.
As for being a mother, I think women need to look after their health, before, during and after preganancy and at the same time look after her husband's health and that of the children.
Sounds daunting, doesn't it?
But without the strict divisions of labour there used to be, housewifery skills are not so admired anymore ( which rather lets me off the hook as I don't think I shall ever come anywhere near my mother's standards ) I don't want to work when I get married but I think I really shall need some stimulation over and above children and neighbours, what few of them are home and the same can be said of friends, not that I have too many, too much study, then work and when the lightglobe went on, men.
And what about when the romance loses its bloom which I feel is almost certain to happen, what then?
It seems I am coming up with more questions than answers.
There's the question of meals and running the house, doing the shopping and all the other chores which the husband can't and won't do. I still think it is very much a man's world and from what I see of many bloggers, they have absolutely no idea of what life is really about.
There do not seem to be very many men declaring their acceptance of a responsible male role, and with gays wanting to get married, one has to wonder why heterosexual men are being let off the hook.
I guess it's about power, really,
But they are just a few of my thoughts and in endeavouring to address these matters I find myself considering the male role as much as the female's. I guess it is hard to think about one without, at the same time, thinking about the other.
But it's over to you now and it would be really nice if a number of men responded, but not at the expense of the female view, so I do hope I shall attract at least some comments, I seem to have a steady niche of readers to my diminutive blog.
So what is your view?
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Comment by Louie
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Phil's Wellness Tips
If your partner doesnt do enough you need to kick them up the bum.
I can say this because I used to be the lazier one, I didn't realize i was, it was just nice having things done, now I realise it is also empowering to do things for yourself, much as some jobs suck ,the end result is always better if you do it for yourself. And its nice to make other people happy.
Comment by Krystal
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I am giving you my top response of the post award, I'm sure you'll be thrilled in view of the large amount of competition.
Well done